Dear High School Girl,

Dear High School Girl,

It's okay - there will be another 'him.' Right now it seems like your world is falling apart and bursting at the seems. Things don't look the same, you have no appetite, and you're confused about weather or not you should have i.m.'d him 2 nights ago about how amazing you thought his tee shirt looked that day. You're wondering, how could he be texting her? "He said 14 days, 3 hours and 12 minutes ago that he likes me!" You love the way his shaggy hair brushes over his pimple-ridden forehead, and you totally don't mind that all of his jeans are frayed at the bottom because he doesn't get them tailored...not to mention the fact that he wears girl jeans - you know it's true.

Here's the truth: He liked you, he really did, but lucky for you he is distracted by anything that walks and has long hair right now. You didn't do anything wrong. The truth is that he doesn't even like his cell phone that he got 2 months ago because someone else has some other cool phone with more apps and faster texts - he changes his mind about a lot of things right now! Don't worry, it will change when you're older (I know you hate hearing that). Moreover, at 15, his emotional capacity to be your so-called 'bf' is that of a tree stump. He is smart; I know, I know...but he's not yet ready to be your knight in shining armor. The only shining armor he has right now are his braces; and don't be fooled, those don't help him ride white horses or anything.

Don't show him that you're jealous, heartbroken, teary eyed, and longing for him to so much as breathe in your direction. It will not only make him feel like he owns you like a stuffed animal, but he DEFINITELY won't go for you if you do those things. Don't be needy, don't jump through hoops to make him happy - because you'll set the precedent that you'll always be willing to act like a circus seal to see him smile. You are beautiful You. You are stunning, smart, lovely, funny, personable You. It's better for someone not to like you the way you are, than for him to like you for something you're not and have to keep 'trying' to be.

Lucky for 'Mr.Right' (who will get his chance in the future) this Mr.Lame-o has moved on. Chin up, girlfriend. You are independent and have a lot going for you; you don't need a guy. Throw yourself into your school work, sports, arts, dance (I'm biased), and of course spending time with the fam.

Remember: If he isn't treating you like a princess now, he won't ever really treat you like a princess. You ARE a princess, and you ARE worth pursuing...just give it some time, and right now focus on being the best possible You that you can be.

With Love,
Miss Sara
p.s. When your mom keeps asking you in the car what's wrong, stop telling her you're fine - she knows by your snappy response that you're not ;)